Negaunee, Michigan – September 18, 2018 – Everyone always talks about the “terrible twos,” or “wait until they’re a teenager!” or the awesome phrase, “they’re SO sassy! They must have gotten it from their mama!”
Well, let me just say this: There is no specific stage. There just isn’t. At least, with my son there isn’t.
He had the ultimate tantrum last night. The reason? He wasn’t ready to take his bath. And he does this after school, most days.
It was HORRENDOUS. I mean, the paint peeled off the walls when he screeched. The cords were standing out in his neck when he did so. He was a sobbing, snotty, screaming, kicking, tense little ball of mess.
I really don’t think it was because he didn’t feel like taking his bath yet. I think it was the fact that he’s been having to get used to his school schedule. I mean, think about it. It was summertime for three months, and then all of sudden we wake up our young children super early, pack their bags, get them ready, and shove them out the door to school. They then have to sit still and pay attention for 8+ hours, and are expected to be well-behaved while doing so.
Getting Ready For The Bus
I don’t know about you, but I, and most other adults I know, have a hard time sitting still and paying attention for 8+ hours a day. But yet, we expect children to do so? That is LUDICROUS.
So after screaming and crying myself, I sat down and thought about everything I just mentioned. How could I possibly expect my little baby human to be in a good mood all day? My arms are his safe space, my words are his comfort, and my ability to take on his horrible tantrums and moods is necessary for him to feel like he can let it all out when he gets home. All of that pent up energy needed to be released, and I was there, I was safe, he could let it out now.
Remember, if your child is able to unleash their hellish behavior with you, take it positively. I’m not saying let bad behavior (talking back, hitting, etc.) go unpunished; What I am saying is to be there when the storm passes, so they can feel safe, loved, and understood.
Even little humans have bad days.
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